The Art of Joyfully Being with Yourself   Random Thoughts - February 2009 'Random Thoughts' Main Page - Exploring Ascension Section - What's New? Recommended Reading: You Are Always on my Mind (Random, November 2008) INTRODUCTION When I look outside I see a bleak sun shining through the clouds that produce some occasional snow flake. I have been wanting to write about this topic for months but somehow the time wasn't ready for it. Yesterday I walked through a forest and when I asked my heart to tell me what it wanted to say I seemed to have been able to translate its message into words which were accompanied by tears of joy. I would like to use this page to anchor these thoughts about the art of joyfully being with yourself. THE HEART: TOGETHER AND ALONE A few months ago I have met a woman who has activated my heart more than any woman before. I think a mix of factors was responsible for this. Due to my personal process I have learnt to open my heart more and more and I have come to value the extreme importance of this expansion of heart consciousness. Then there is of course the level of harmlessness that I have found in her. This sure makes it easier to open up your heart when you come across someone else with quite an open and harmless heart herself. Well she had already decided to go to Africa for a month before she met me and now she has been gone for almost two weeks and this did sure trigger some interesting thoughts within my system. During one of my solitary walks I started to feel rather bad. Luckily I have developed a reality within which it is possible to start a conversation with my heart. So, I tuned into my heart and I asked her what on earth is going on? Within a minute the answer came and the thoughts that formed itself aroused an emotional and salty response. Normally this is a sign that I have uncovered something worthwhile. I felt a fear. A fear that had formed in my heart which said that the distance between her and me might lead to a closing of my heart and it urged me not to close it off again after some 36 years of closure. Please remain open! Apparently it is possible to retain my relatively open heart vibration even when it is not necessarily opening up to someone else. There seems to be the lingering idea that my heart can only remain open when you are able to share the heart connection with someone else. Perhaps that is not really necessary at all. Perhaps the heart doesn't really need an object and is she able to 'breathe' unconditionally within oneself. THE ART OF JOYFULLY BEING WITH YOURSELF I think it is a wonderful feat if you are truly able to enjoy being with yourself. To know that you enjoy breathing with full lungs and a full belly, with a throbbing heart chakra and a grand peace of mind. That you have grown beyond thoughts that connect being with yourself with ideas like 'loneliness', 'emptiness', 'not being worth enough', 'needing someone else to feel complete', 'needing external stimuli', 'to be left behind', 'needing to do something to occupy myself'. I sure do hope that I will be able to tune into this state of being on a regular basis. Gibbon February 2009 To top of page I am not responsible for the contents of the external links that you can find in the ads in this block.